The inspiration for this post came from an article by Jim Rohn | Success
The characteristics of a successful leader are very similar to the characteristics of a successful survivor. When I took my first step on the journey to recovery, I had approximately zero of the good traits. However, my failures were replaced by successes thanks to an observant and helpful group of family, friends, neighbors, and therapists.
- Learn to be strong but not impolite
Perhaps, the best trait I developed while on my journey to recovery is to use the words “thank you” often and everywhere. The is so much to be thankful for even if the world is not perfect or adversity has taken away everything that was important to you.
- Learn to be kind but not weak
If adversity did to you what it did to me, you were left physically and cognitive weaker than you once where. Your situation does not give you permission to be be rude, unkind, or mean to those around you. Be kind to everybody.
- Learn to be bold but not a bully
Nobody appreciates a bully except the bully. If you need something, ask for it rather than demand it. There is no place for a bully in this world — not in the home, office, online, or anywhere!
- Learn to be humble but not timid
Ask for help when you need it. Ask for directions when you need them. Do not be afraid to leave your comfort zone.
- Learn to be proud but not arrogant
I keep a record of my accomplishments, not for bragging rights or to share, but as a reminder of things I used to think were impossible to achieve.
- Learn to develop humor without folly
I now think of my adversity as a gift. For example, the fact I no longer drive may be a loss of some independence, but I no longer worry about lease payments, insurance, maintenance, gas, directions, traffic, or parking
- Learn to deal in realities
I used to believe somebody was responsible for my adversity. Whether or not that is true, there is no value in dwelling on this issue. Some events are so significant they are worth remembering so we don’t repeat our past mistakes. However, I am much happier acting upon the reality I know rather than the fantasy of events that may or may not have occurred.
Thanks to Jim Rohn for writing the article that inspired this post; Success for committing its resources to the article; Google for helping me find the article; and all the people who, directly or indirectly made, it possible to include the picture and text in the post.