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Benefits of Loss

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The following poem encourages us to think of a loss (cancer, brain injury, ataxia, autism,  disabilities, life-threatening illness, etc.) as a benefit that helps us and everyone with whom we interact. Even though the poem recognizes the negative side of loss, it also reinforces the belief that the benefits of loss can outweigh the detriments.

Loss

“Hello, please allow me to introduce myself, my name is…Loss. I travel throughout the universe with a very specific job description. I have several friends that either travel with me or on their own. Their names are Pain, Suffering, Grief, Disappointment, Unfairness and Depression. I wanted all of you to understand the role that we play. We are all a part of what is known as…the cycle of life. We do not select our visited  because they are more deserving of heart-ache than others.  Our job is not to punish, it is just to carry out what is to be. You have not been singled out to be hurt or punished, even though I know you may have thought so. Instead it is a matter of placement, timing, chance and influence.

You see we start visiting you when you are first born. The first time you experience me is when you are taken from the womb of your mother. I am the one that visited  you when you lost…your first front tooth. I was also there when you lost…your first race. I was the one that visited you each time you…had your heart broken. You see I have been a part of your life…since the minute you were born. Sometimes my damage was easier to recover from than other times. I noticed when it was difficult for you…but I could not intervene. I knew that I not only had a job to do, but you were in the middle of the molding process. You are the person that you are today because I visited you. Some of you have handled me easier than others, but all of you have grown as a result of my visits.

There are so many people out there who have been touched by your experiences. Your influence was far more reaching than just to yourself or your immediate family. There have been lives changed that you will never even know about, as a result of my visits to you. It was not just you that needed molding but others as well. I just wanted to take the time to thank-you for helping me to mold the universe.

Sincerely,

Loss”

~ Debbie Wilson, Loss, 5-6-96

Questions

How is the loss of identity, memory, energy, and enthusiasm different from a loss due to theft, fire, or flood? What could help you more easily embrace the benefits of loss? How can you help people understand the benefits of your loss or their loss? What are your solutions for coping with loss for which there appears to be no benefit?

Credit

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Thanks to Debbie Wilson for sharing her poem.

Scott
Even after brain surgeries, chemotherapy, and radiation treatments to eradicate his brain cancer, Scott continued to work; continued to study; and earned professional certifications from the Project Management Institute, American Society of Quality, and Stanford University School of Professional Development. How were all of these achievements possible at a time when Scott was struggling with the hurdles of brain injury? The answers are in this blog.

2 Responses to “Benefits of Loss”

  • The leading problems of head injury is that chances are you may never be able to “properly” identify your loss. You are stuck in a medical system, well equipped in certain places, poorly equipped in other places. Recognition of “each” head injury is almost impossible to direct unless the person is given the proper assistance. Doesn’t always happen. I can attest to that. Been there, done that, recognize the complete negligence of head injury by doctor who were not never taught…

    • Scott says:

      John, although there is no denying a lot of what you said, I believe the real issue is whether we give up because the process is broken and less than perfect, or we find a way to continue — under, over, through, or around the obstacles that leave many in a perpetual state of uncertainty and limbo. Sure, the journey would be much easier if someone explained the problem, path, and goal to us, but the journey is more rewarding knowing we succeeded regardless of the obstacles and lack of information. Thank you for sharing your comment.


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During the past 13 years, I have been diagnosed with cancer, brain injury, balance issues, stroke, ataxia, visual impairment, and auditory challenges. I have overcome significant adversity! I can explain how to overcome your challenges. I am a very active Toastmaster and a motivational speaker.