When I was attending cognitive therapy four hours per day and four days per week, I frequently heard people say that they didn’t want to attend therapy any more. The complaints were generally that therapy was too difficult, required too much time, and was not necessary. Even though I strongly disagreed, I listened to the complaints before asking any clarifying questions or mentioning my view.
I can’t think of any reason why people should feel entitled to an easy life. Overcoming adversity is challenging, finding your “new normal” is difficult, and living your new normal may require overcoming many hurdles. If you think of recovery as your full-time job, you will find that good therapy requires less time than a typical full-time job. Even those who claim they have nothing to learn can learn something from therapists and classmates. The person in the following video chose not to attend therapy, but he continued to learn, try different compensation tools, and most importantly teach others (by example) how to overcome adversity with a positive attitude. Unfortunately, cancer ended his life. May he rest in peace.
- If you could choose between losing your eyesight and your hearing, which would you prefer to lose and why?
- If you could choose between losing your sense of touch and your sense of taste, which would you choose and why?
- Ben Underwood overcame a significant obstacle. What can you do to overcome one of your significant obstacles?
- How do you know if you are doing everything you can to overcome your challenges?
Thanks to Ben Underwood, Aquanetta Gordon (Ben’s mom), Ben’s family, Dr. James Roben, Letta Wesley (audiologist), University of California Santa Barbara, Naval Submarine Base, Steven Clevenger (Sonar Trainer, U.S. Naval Submarine School), Amazing People, YouTube, and all the other people who made it possible for me to include the picture and video I used in this post.