Sometimes Decisions Require Change

Photo credit: Aaron Burde

“It is not necessary to change.  Survival is not mandatory.” ~ W. Edwards Deming

I have written about decision making, strategies for decision making, decision scenarios, puzzles that enhance the quality of decision making, decision fatigue, and decision paralysis. This post continues with the theme of making decisions, but it addresses one of the most difficult facts of decision making — sometimes decisions require change. Decisions may require changes that are out of your control, but there is also a possibility that the required change involves your attitude, beliefs, or actions.

The following video clip is from the movie “Joyful Noise.” My inclusion of the video is not an attempt to persuade you that one religion is better than another. Similarly, my choice to include the video is not a statement that only men may need to change. The fact is that I happened to find the clip during a YouTube search and I thought the clip was perfect for this post. If somebody sends me a short clip in English, I would gladly update this post with another clip.


How might change help you overcome decision paralysis? What might you need to change about yourself? How did your injury affect your willingness to change? How did your injury affect your ability to change? What is the most difficult part of personal change? What could you do to ensure your successful change? How can you help others who need to change? Why is it in your best interest to help others change? What is your strategy if change is necessary but not possible?


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Thanks to Warner Bros. Pictures Distribution, Queen Latifa, Dolly Parton, Keke Palmer, YouTube, and many others for providing the video used in this post.


  1. How to change the world: Be the change you wish to see in the world. Be the kind of person you enjoy having in your life. Prioritizing helps. I get easily overwhelmed with life’s constant demands for decision making. Only “cutting off what I can chew,” daily. Filling my days with more manageable decision making tasks. Being willing To fill my days with less. Being willing to give up things that will be temporarily or permanently painful is challenging. Brain Injury has been a never ending lesson in change. I am slower, not able to do all I would like to do. Making decisions is difficult. It requires consistency in forgiving and accepting myself as I am today, everyday. I have learned and continue to learn how to adapt to change. One strategy I have been practicing lately is lowering my expectations, to assure satisfaction, another is turning my goals into many small steps, just far away enough to be challenging, but not so far away I can no longer visualize them. Change in life is a certainty. Learning how to do so is in everyone’s best interest. So much good is derived from learning how to adapt, modeling and teaching this skill to others strengthens both teacher and student, if multiplied it strengthens communities. It is hard to accept change is sometimes not possible. Using all my energy for things within my power to change is key.

    1. Esther,

      Your formula for changing the world is identical to the formula described is this post. I don’t think it matters whether actions are based on statements, songs, poems, or videos — the fact is that change is innevitable and the people who benefit the most from change either start it, support it, or adapt to it.

      I believe the best way to overcome decision fatigue and paralysis is to practice making decisions. In my humble opinion, lowering you expectations is not an ideal solution. Whether or not you make the “best” decision according to other people, you do make the best one given your knowlege, beliefs, risks, and rewards. Decisions represent a snapshot of time. You should not “punish” yourself for making a great decision today that you dislike tomorrow.

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